National Missing and Exploited Children: Rethinking “Stranger Danger”

“Stranger danger” It’s short. It’s simple. It even rhymes! But is it really the most effective abduction prevention lesson for our children?  Children do not understand the concept of a stranger. Many believe that strangers are mean, ugly people — so the nice man asking for help to find his lost puppy? Not a stranger.

A New Message

Although “stranger danger” seems like an easy way to teach our children basic personal safety, it actually puts them at a disadvantage. Children who are taught stranger danger may: Be afraid to ask helpful strangers for assistance when they need it Not knowing how to recognize and avoid risky situations. Instead of teaching “stranger danger,” try the following tips when talking to your child about abduction prevention safety:

Don’t say: Never talk to strangers.

Say: You should not approach just anyone. If you need help, look for a uniformed police officer, a store clerk with a nametag, or a parent with children.

Don’t say: Stay away from people you don’t know.

Say: It’s important for you to get my permission before going anywhere with anyone.

Don't say: You can tell someone is bad just by looking at them.

Say: Pay attention to what people do. Tell me right away if anyone asks you to keep a secret, makes you feel uncomfortable, or tries to get you to go with them.

 

For more tips for parents, grandparents, child care providers, and the faith community, click on the National Missing and Exploited link below.

 

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